When my sister’s fiance died, she was heartbroken. We all were, but naturally she took it the hardest. She actually fell into a depression from it, and it was hard to see her going through such pain on a daily basis. I knew there was no way to bring him back, but I had to do my best to bring her back. A friend of mine suggested that I take my sister to look at monuments in Morris County NJ. To be honest, I thought that it was a bad idea. I wanted to make her smile, and I did not think doing something that would remind her that he is no longer here was good for that.
My friend is a psychologist though, and she knows my sister quite well. She told me that this would start the healing process, so I decided to go for it. I contacted the monument company first and explained that her fiance had died several months earlier, but she had not yet picked out a tombstone for him. They explained the entire process to me, and I talked her into looking at the website with me.
I was actually surprised that she was excited to do this. It gave her some type of peace to be able to pick out the perfect tombstone for him. I thought it would have the opposite effect, so I as glad to see her excited about it. He was a musician who could play many different types of instruments, but playing the guitar was his favorite. She designed his tombstone around that theme. It had a guitar, music notes, and the cross on it because she knew without a doubt he was in Heaven. That really was therapeutic for her, and it was the day she started coming back to us too!